Review – Breaking Up With Perfect

Review of Breaking Up With Perfect

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Title: Breaking Up With Perfect: Kiss Perfection Good-Bye and Embrace the Joy God Has in Store for You
Author: Amy Carroll
Series: N/A
Genre: Women’s Christian Living
Number of Pages: 229

My Rating: ★★★☆☆


Perfectionism can be compared to a relationship—a bad relationship. Breaking Up With Perfect will teach you how to end this joy-sapping partnership. Learn the lies of perfection and how the truths of God’s love set you free. Learn how to find beauty in the messiness of life. And learn to be content with remaining authentically imperfect.


Breaking up With Perfect taught me a lot about this little condition I have called perfectionism. I knew I was a perfectionist, but now I catch so many perfectionist thoughts and actions that I was previously unaware of.

Amy Carroll presents a clear explanation of what perfectionists believe (even if they’re not aware of it), why they’re wrong, how it harms them, and what they can do to change.

I appreciated the fact that the book is set up with the goal of life change in mind. What good is knowledge if we don’t act on it? But it can be really hard to know where to start when you already feel overwhelmed by the demands of your perfectionist lifestyle. Fortunately, the end of the book contains a list of 50 simple ideas to get you started.

Carroll’s understanding of perfectionism comes from experience. She offers relatable stories from her own life, and her writing style is sincere, wise, and gentle.

I recommend this to:

  • Women.
  • Perfectionists.
  • Anyone who would like to learn if they are one of the 9 out of 10 women who suffer from this condition.


• All relationships are complex, but the one with ourselves may be the most so.

• A distorted concept of God can begin to form in our minds and hearts—a picture that is far from His true character.

• God’s love cracked through the hard shell around my heart and began to heal me of seeking a life for God instead of with God.

• The truth is that the way we spend our time reveals our true priorities. Will our pursuit of perfection and our tasks rise to the top, or will we choose to surrender to love? In the end, I don’t want to be known for completing my lists. I want to be known for loving God and others well.

• The moment I begin wearing my roles as my name rather than looking to the Name Above All Names for my identity, perfection lures me back into our dysfunctional romance.

• God is big enough to turn even our flaws into something usable and to redeem the failures of our past.

Have you read Breaking Up With Perfect? If so, what did you think of it? If you haven’t read it, does it look like something you’d want to read?


2 thoughts on “Review – Breaking Up With Perfect

  1. Thank you for your review! I never thought perfectionism was a condition a person “suffers” from, but I suppose if it hinders our relationship with God, it could be a problem. Someone was kind enough to give me a copy of this book so I am going to read it.

    1. Thank you for commenting! Perfectionism is definitely alluring. For me, I think perfectionism is a form of pride. Wanting to be perfect means wanting to not need God. However, each person’s reason for being a perfectionist is different. Letting go of perfectionism doesn’t mean not striving for excellence, but it does mean not holding on to unrealistic expectations. I hope you enjoy reading the book!

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